If you have found yourself in this place in life I want to start off by congratulating you because you have done it! You have successfully raised your children too adulthood. Now you either have the house to yourself or you get to peacefully share it with your husband. Whichever it is enjoy it. If you adult child is still living with you maybe you should consider pushing them a little bit hard to move out or building them a guesthouse so you can have the place to yourself. Whatever the scenario here are a few tips on enjoying being a mom with adult children.
1. Cut the Cord
If you are a mom with all adult children its time to cut the cord: its time to push them out of the nest and see if they fly. Adult children like to now and then come back and ask for things. I am not saying that you should never help your adult children but there does need to be boundaries. You need to set boundaries with your children so that they learn to fend for themselves. This might even mean letting them fall on their face a few times and then coming in and helping them pick up the pieces. Your adult children need to be adults and crying to mommy every time something goes wrong just doesn’t cut it. Save your time, energy, and resources to spoil the booties off of your future or maybe present grandchildren.
Now that you are free from the daily task of raising children you need to enjoy life! You need to do the things that you never could do because you had children to look after daily. If you enjoy reading, join a book club that meets weekly. If you love to swim join an adult swim team. Whatever it is that you love to do, do it! If you and your husband have always wanted to travel to a specific location, save some money and go. If you want to walk around the house naked then do it! You need to enjoy yourselves. Odds are you only have a few more years until the aches and pains start kicking in (if they haven’t already) therefore you need to make the best out of it.
3. Security System
Remember when we were talking about kicking the children out of the nest. Adult children like to try to sneak in. Adult children think that because they used to live in the house that they can stop by anytime of any day and just bust in. Now if you are going to take me up on walking around the house naked then this is probably something you want to prevent from happening. If you and your husband want to have some alone time (wink wink) you do not want your adult children barging in unannounced. To prevent the above from happening you should purchase a top of the line alarm systems. I found a company called Smith Monitoring that offers the best home security systems and offers some of the best features. Smith Monitoring specializes in Pearland home security.